Breakups

"I hate breaking up with someone, it's so hard to do." Bullcrap. Breaking up with someone is really easy to do so don't stress about them. The tough thing is a lot of people expect them to be like the movies, but they just aren't. The sooner people realize this, the sooner they'll be happy. All you really have to do is come up with a small white lie. That's not nice? Well it keeps them from stalking you, asking for you back, and sometimes it'll save the friendship. All you have to say is "We need to breakup. Our personalities don't connect at all and if we stay together, we'll be unhappy." It's that simple. It keeps all the blame off of you and your significant other. You can't just bash the hell out of them saying that they are horrible people. That doesn't help their ego at all and you just come off as a bitch. Also a lot of magazines and junk recommend saying "I have reoccuring feelings for my ex. I'm going to follow them." That forces the blame on you which can turn it extremely messy. Don't put in any special details of your relationship. That will make it seem more official. Before you dump the person, make it known that something is wrong. Start talking to them less and avoid hanging out with them so much. It seems rude and it'll be awkward, but distancing yourself makes the blow much softer. If you've been dumped and you still have feelings, move on. The best thing you can really do is erase all possible signs that they existed in your world. The feelings will fade away. Don't ever listen to depressing music. It's ok to have a pity party, but that's only allowed to last ONE DAY. If it's longer, that stops you from moving on. It's not that tough. The blow will hurt, especially if it's sudden, but it'll get better...unless that person cheated on you. KILL IT WITH FIRE! Especially if they cheated. That's the most disgusting thing I can think of a person to do. It's a sudden thing that happens that will rip your poor heart out. If you were the person who cheated, please realize how hurt they were. That's an awful feeling that really makes you feel like crap. "Did they cheat because I wasn't good enough?" There's a lot of those questions that they wonder about. If you have cheated, don't ever do it again. Breaking up is easy if you aren't happy. Messy breakups are a pain to deal with. If the person is attacking you, back down. It's weird, especially for headstrong people like me, but the way to win is let people make themselves look bad. They aren't with you anymore so don't talk to them. It's ok to fight back when they start calling you a whore or a cheater. That's extremely hurtful and not caring when they call you that will make it seem like those lies are true. My best tip is to block them from messaging you, or posting on your wall on any social website. That's not cool of them to attack you. For example, my new ex-boyfriend is attacking me with these stupid pictures that have captions like "If you left without a reason, don't come back with an excuse." There's an angry guy as the picture. I'm not responding to it, but I feel threatened. He is a lot bigger than me so if he was to attack me, I'm in trouble if I get pinned down. I'm on high alert for more of these threatening posts along with his actions. Scary right? Well if that gets any worse, my parents will be finding out, along with school officials. If you notice stalking or feel threatened, let the people I named off know, along with your closest friends. Those are dangerous habits and your friends won't leave you alone. The stalking has happened with one of my friends, so all of her friends never let her walk alone. We took shifts walking in the halls with her, sat next to her in all of her classes (we each had one), and went home with her on the bus. We were witnesses to the stalking and as soon as they tried to do something to her, we fought him off and got the police set on him. Better safer than sorry. I have a facebook now for this. I'm just known as enteigirl blogspot on there. I'm a person, but anyone can friend me or message me and all that stuff. I speak English so please talk to me in English. I think it's an easier way to contact me or comment. I will not be putting any posts on there from my blog. Love you guys- Amai